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PostSubject: How to handle?   Wed Dec 06, 2006 2:43 pm

Was this a good way to handle the situation?

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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Wed Dec 06, 2006 2:57 pm

It would seem that he has been the recipient of poor parently skills for most of his life... but that would be a judgement without knowing the whole story.

I think that if she felt it was a last ditch effort to save her son and hopefully prevent future trouble then she did the right thing. I imagine if she had thought anything else would be effective she would have tried it or already had.
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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Wed Dec 06, 2006 3:00 pm

I'm not saying I disagree with you - but could it possibly be a "cop out" in that she was not the one responsible for "punishing" her child?

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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Wed Dec 06, 2006 3:19 pm

Let's look at the facts:

1. the boy was 12 years old
2. he is facing expulsion from school
3. he took a swing at the police officer
4. he has ADHD
5. mother wanted to show him a lesson

Based on the available information, it appears that the problems with this child started a long time ago. Apparently he has been allowed to have his own way for so long that the mother finally reached a frustration point that she thought it was appropriate to have the police come in to handle this situation. Perhaps she should have intervened at a much earlier age than 12. Perhaps a good discussion behind the spanking bush would have brought a resolution to this behavior a long time ago. Perhaps a lot of things could have been done differently than they were, but now she will have to deal with a very resentful young boy entering his teens for several years to come. This family is one that needs a lot of help and prayer.

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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Wed Dec 06, 2006 3:25 pm

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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Thu Dec 07, 2006 10:26 am

I want to add a #6 to Lee's list that I feel is very important....

#6. no mention of a father

Sounds like she is a single mom, who has to work to support herself, this kid, and maybe others.

Anyone here dealt with a kid with ADHD when you were mentally and physically exhausted? I think that she did the right thing and maybe this will help the boy to take some personal responsibilty and learn a few lessons along the way. I don't fault her... at least she did SOMETHING instead of letting him continue to run all over her and the g'ma.
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PostSubject: Re: How to handle?   Thu Dec 07, 2006 10:34 am

My mom's co worker has been through and is in this exact situation. Her son is my brother's age, I've known them since he was 5 or so. She seems him on visiting days on Sundays now.

She is/was a terribly selfish and immature mother however, always competing with her ex-husband for their sons attention. It was one of those situations where he should have been with his dad but the mom wanted to keep him out of pride b/c she was would have looked like a bad mother if she didn't.

It's a shame how parents are allowed to mess up their kids.
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